We should never start an argument if we are mad. Everyone probably knows that this is true. But sometimes we lose control of our emotions during a heated discussion, and we can’t stop and properly defuse an argument until it’s too late.
Bright Side presents you with three clear reasons why we shouldn’t argue if we’re angry.
1. You think everyone is against you
When they are feeling angry, a person loses control not only of their emotions but their beliefs as well due to the inner workings of the brain. Psychologists say that if we are in a bad mood, we consider any words or gestures of our opponent to be an insult. We’ll only end up shouting at our opponent even more without a reason. And all of this will lead to the end of the relationship.
2. You unwittingly make your opponent mad
During numerous studies, scientists have also proven that if you’re angry, other people start feeling angry too. This fact only makes it more likely that you won’t be able to resolve a conflict properly when feeling angry.
3. You won’t be able to listen to your opponent
Anger blunts your ability to be rational. That’s why during the argument you think worse of the other person than you would when you are calm. In this situation, you won’t be able to be unbiased toward your partner and notice their best qualities. But if during an argument you see your opponent as a clever and charismatic person, you won’t think that the problem is so serious, and you’ll be able to solve it more quickly and effectively.